It's never easy to hear criticism about ourselves. As a matter of fact, it can be outright horrifying to hear the ridiculing words of others. In today's society, perfection is something that's expected at all times. It's unfortunate that often times we are taught to achieve perfection, but are not taught, that it's actually okay to not be perfect, that it's actually okay to be wrong.
The only wrong in being wrong, is the refusal to admit it.
Sometimes we can make a problem worse by attempting to self diagnose a problem when there really isn't one. The problem in searching for the "problem" is that you can potentially create a bigger problem, out of the non existent problem you're searching for.
It's okay, to not be, okay.
During my mid twenties, shortly after giving birth to my second son, I was diagnosed with Cervical Spinal Stenosis. I had no idea what this meant for my life, but I knew it wasn't good. My mind spiraled out of control as I attempted to pinpoint the past moments that could have potentially contributed to the development of my newly diagnosed condition. Was it the many years of working hard labor? Or was it my obsession to lose weight after pregnancy that caused me to overdo my exercise routine? Though all of the aforementioned possibly played a part, what I eventually learned, is that my condition was Congenital.